Susan Forward
Susan Forward
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Full Name and Common Aliases
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Susan Forward is a renowned American psychologist, therapist, and author known for her groundbreaking work in the field of family dynamics and codependency.
Birth and Death Dates
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Born on August 13, 1943. No record of her passing found.
Nationality and Profession(s)
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American; Psychologist, Therapist, Author
Susan Forward is a licensed therapist with extensive experience in treating patients struggling with family-related issues, codependency, and relationship dynamics. Her work has made a significant impact on the field of psychology, earning her recognition as an expert in her field.
Early Life and Background
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Growing up in a troubled home environment marked by emotional abuse and neglect had a profound effect on Susan's life. She credits this experience with inspiring her to dedicate her career to helping others overcome similar challenges. Forward pursued her education at the University of California, Los Angeles (UCLA), where she earned both her Bachelor's and Master's degrees in psychology.
Major Accomplishments
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Developed a highly effective treatment approach for treating codependency, known as "The Process"
Authored several best-selling books on family dynamics, codependency, and relationships
Conducted extensive research on the effects of childhood trauma on adult relationships
Established herself as a leading expert in her field through numerous media appearances, lectures, and workshops
Notable Works or Actions
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Some of Susan Forward's notable works include:
"Toxic Parents: Overcoming Their Hurtful Legacy and Reclaiming Your Life" (1989) - A groundbreaking book that explores the impact of childhood trauma on adult relationships
"When Your Lover Is a Liar: Healing the Trauma of Infidelity" (2003) - A comprehensive guide for individuals dealing with infidelity in their relationships
* "Men Who Hate Women and the Women Who Love Them" (1986) - A thought-provoking book that examines the dynamics of abusive relationships
Impact and Legacy
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Susan Forward's work has had a profound impact on the field of psychology, inspiring countless individuals to seek help for their family-related issues. Her books have been widely read and studied, providing a valuable resource for therapists, counselors, and individuals struggling with codependency.
Why They Are Widely Quoted or Remembered
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Susan Forward is widely quoted and remembered due to her expertise in treating complex family dynamics and codependency. Her dedication to helping others overcome their struggles has made her a respected figure in the field of psychology, earning her recognition as one of the leading authorities on relationships and family issues.
By providing readers with an understanding of Susan Forward's remarkable life journey and achievements, this biography offers insight into why she remains an influential voice in the world of psychology.
Quotes by Susan Forward
Susan Forward's insights on:
What makes a controlling parent so insidious is that the domination usually comes in the guise of concern. Phrases such as, “this is for your own good,” “I’m only doing this for you,” and, “only because I love you so much,” all mean the same thing: “I’m doing this because I’m so afraid of losing you that I’m willing to make you miserable.
No matter how toxic your parents might be, you still have a need to deify them. Even if you understand, on one level, that your father was wrong to beat you, you may still believe he was justified. Intellectual understanding is not enough to convince your emotions that you were not responsible.
In this way she perpetuated the pain she had experienced as a child. Not unexpectedly, her enormous accumulated rage had to find a way out, but since she was afraid to express it directly, her body and her moods expressed it for her: in the form of headaches, a knotted-up stomach, and depression.
Remember, accepting blame is a survival tool for abused children. They keep the myth of the good family alive by believing that they – not their parents – are bad. This belief lies at the core of virtually all self-defeating behavior patterns in adults who were abused as children.
Women who were unprotected as children don’t believe they are worthy of love – on an unconscious level, they believe that if they were, their mothers wouldn’t have allowed them to be hurt. “I don’t trust that anything good will happen for me,” a woman who was an unprotected child tells herself.
The more compliant she is, the more her feelings and needs are ignored, the angrier the girl becomes, and then the more compliant she becomes in order to deal with the anger. This cycle is the track that every mistreated child runs.
If their children misbehave, they’ll take away privileges, but they won’t assault their dignity or value.
The healing process kicks into gear with with the words “This is what you did to me.” That statement is not gentle or polite; it’s absolutely direct. In fact, I know that seeing it might feel like a punch in the stomach. I deliberately removed the distancing veil of “objectivity” from the words “This is what you did” by adding ‘to me’.
The misogynist genuinely believes that his rage toward his partner is due to her deficiencies. It is easier for him to attack her than to deal with the real sources of his rage. He feels justified in acting out rage on women. Part of this justification may come from his experiences at home as a child, but a great deal of it comes directly from our culture.
Like a chemical toxin, the emotional damage inflicted by these parents spreads throughout a child’s being, and as the child grows, so does the pain.